I bet a lot of you clicked on this solely on the fact that “F***” is in the title.
Well, folks, it’s not what you think.
Go free yourself.
Almost always we are our own limitations. We place ourselves within made-up parameters so that we never go very far. So many times we, as humans, are so afraid of failure or rejection that we put on our own shackles, just to hold ourselves back to a level far below our potential.
Don’t be like that. Unlock those shackles you clasped around your own feet. Break down those invisible walls. Reject those parameters.
You were made for beautiful, wonderful things. Big or small, you are filled with purpose. You are full of life. You have been given talents and passions, dreams and capabilities to make a difference, to be a help.
What are you waiting for?
“You are not limited by us, but you are limited by your own affections.”
(2 Corinthians 6:12)
“For you were called to be free, brothers; only don’t use this freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but serve one another through love.” (Galatians 5:13)
“For we are His creation, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared ahead of time so that we should walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:10)
My nephew is only 4 years old, but he’s one of the best teachers I’ve ever had. Honestly, kids teach you as much as you teach them. But kids don’t teach you how to find the square root of a number or how to calculate the CPI. No, kids teach you lessons about life.
My nephew Mason is 4 years old, but has more wisdom than he knows. In fact, I’m not sure at his age he can even grasp the concept of wisdom. Sometimes at 22, I’m not sure I even get it. Honestly.
A few days ago Mason and I were playing in the backyard. I was pushing him on his little swing tied out from a big tree branch. Each time he would say “higher!” I would push his swing just a little bit harder and listen to his gleeful little squeals of excitement. (Seriously, that little man will capture your heart.) After a little while I was ready to join the rest of the family who were around the old wooden picnic table in a different part of the yard. (In the countryside of Arkansas, a “yard” can be a very expansive plot of land, just so you know.)
Instead of just telling Mason I was going to join the rest of the family, I asked him if he wanted to come with me to see what everyone else was doing. His response was a very quick “no” with demands for more swinging. So then I said, “How about I teach YOU how to swing on your own? That way, you can still go higher and higher, but you won’t need me to stand behind you and push.” He looked at me with unconvinced eyes, but he didn’t say “no.” I quickly went to telling him how you simply kick your feet while holding on to the rope. I even moved his legs in the way he would need to move them to be able to swing himself.
After the short tutorial, little Mason slid down off the swing onto his feet and started slowly walking towards everyone else. His facial expression was….disappointed and defeated. I walked beside him and asked why he didn’t want to swing. That’s when he started saying, “I can’t do it. I can’t do it!” He had zero faith in himself. I encouraged him with, “Well, why don’t you just try? Come on, bud. I’ll stay over there until you get the hang of it.” He shook his little defeated head and said, “No, it awright (all right). I can’t do it.”
How in the world does he know he can’t do something that he has never tried? I know he can learn to swing by himself. He’s a smart, strong little man – and it’s just swinging. But he didn’t have any confidence or faith in his own abilities. Of course I told him, “Of course you can do it, Mas! You just have to try. I know you can do it. Come on, just try. I’ll show you again.” Of course, that just frustrated him because he just KNEW that he couldn’t do it and was bothered with me asking so much of him. His response was another “I can’t do it.”
Finally I looked at him and said, “Okay, well WHY can’t you do it?” I mean, what was his basis for claiming that he couldn’t do this task that I know he can? This is what got me. His response was the most genuine and honest and simultaneously heartbreaking and eye-opening sentence. He said, “Because I’m not perfect!”
Oh Mason, if only you knew what a perfect little teacher you are! This showed me EXACTLY what I hide behind – my imperfection. So many times I don’t try something because I have already made up my mind that I failed at it. Time and time again God asks me to “try this, daughter” and I walk away defeated and disappointed in myself because I have no confidence or faith that I can do it. Well, I am half right here – I can’t do most things. But yet, I can. If it were just me – Mary Elizabeth Bailey – I couldn’t do the bulk of what God asks me. But it’s not just me. I have the Holy Spirit within me. I have the Son of the Living God as my Savior. I have the God of ALL creation watching over me every single moment. It’s not just me. It’s never just me.
My God has equipped me with abilities that He KNOWS I can use. My goal is to not walk away saying “I can’t do this because I’m not perfect.” My goal is to hold on and do what God asks knowing that I CAN because my SAVIOR is PERFECT. God doesn’t ask anything of me that He doesn’t first prepare me for, one way or another. Trusting in that is one of the hardest things for me to do, but when it comes down to it – it’s just a matter of faith. *Oh Father, let my faith be much!*
I can’t wait to explain this one day to Mason. I can’t wait for my nephew to embrace the love of the Heavenly Father. I can’t wait for him to live out Philippians 4:13 (“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”) I cannot wait for Mason to be old enough to understand that there is a mighty God who is going to do great things through him. I can’t wait to one day share with Mason the lessons he so freely teaches me.
God used my 4 year old nephew to speak to me. Who (or what) is He using to speak to YOU right now? Listen to Him. Embrace His direction and guidance. Seek Him. You will find Him, I promise. And TRUST in your Creator. He knows what you can do because He knows what He can do.
“For I know the plans I have for you – this is the Lord’s declaration – plans for your welfare, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” -Jeremiah 29:11
An ending note: To my nephew and the rest of the little ones out there, the Bible says in Luke 12:32 “Don’t be afraid, little flock, because your Father delights to give you the kingdom.” Don’t be afraid to do anything that God asks of you. Don’t be afraid of your imperfection. Your Heavenly Father has it covered (with the blood of a perfect Savior), and He just wants to give you the kingdom. 🙂
I never knew growing up would be so…..hard.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done a lot of growing up in my 22 years of life — many of it at a young age.
I guess I always imagined that it would get easier as I got older.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
It gets harder. And harder.
In less than two weeks I graduate college and leave all of the friends I have come to love as family, co-workers and employers I don’t know how I’ll live without, and the place I’ve called home for the last four years — ASU.
In less than four months I start law school, officially become in debt for the first time in my life (student loans to pay for law school, of course), and move away from my family.
Growing up sure can be sad.
But it’s necessary. There’s no point in life if we never change or grow.
Growing up sure is scary.
I’m terrified to have debt, to commit to law school, to move on from people I love and who love me.
It scares me to know that at 22, I am really choosing my entire future’s path. At 22 years old.
But it’s motivating. Fear is a powerful force, after all.
Ah, I tip my metaphoric hat at the “grown up” world.
It’s a whole new scene out there.